Видео

I don’t agree with this at all. If anything, I think most people on the planet are guilty of UNDER explaining than the opposite. Most people are so “short attention span theater” that their only method of communication is the digital equivalent of two syllable grunts and squeaks…then we all sit here with our collective surprised Pikachu face, wondering why the planet is the clown world that it is. Of course it is! No one bothers to explain themselves… No one cares about detail… No one takes the time to actually UNDERSTAND what’s truly happening in the minds of those around them. Most people just want the “Cliff’s Notes” version of life, then can’t understand why that’s EXACTLY what their lives end up being.

Hi,good video Paul, I've shared it on X aka Twitter 😊

Minimalism is good!

Got 32😂✨ in how I used to be..... & 34 on how I do Now, (that I'm getting older) 😂😊💕✨ Thanks for your channel!! It feels like home😊🙏🏻🌻

While talking over the radio, when I'm not entirely sure I got the message correctly. I will respond with telling them what I'm actually going to do. Then I get the response "Yes, that's what I said" in an irritated tone. I guess I sometimes need to better balance the effects of having misheard/understood an instruction vs hogging the radio to much. Probably comes down to having more faith in myself and my intuition, accept that things can sometimes go wrong and say sorry afterwards.

Poeple act like I can go off by myself for 10-20 mins, recharge, and come back but I find it’s better to go and go and go until I’m empty and then just leave.

So true what you said about more words not going to make you better heard. My Grandad used to say ‘a man convinced against his will , is of the same opinion still’

I just want to say "thankyou" for making this video. 🙏 Describes me exactly. Nice to know I'm not the only one that does this. This information helps me a lot. Trying to keep this message short and to the point. 😅

& overclocking detail has served me extremely well , as some time if not all the time I overclock systems thinking usually due to a solution derived from the mother of necessity opening up that thing system more & presto , I guess we're both right & it depends as sometimes only a core message would best suit & overclocking-( much like a car being over locked is the polar opposite extreme ) so I agree to disagree.

What pisses me off the most iswhen people demand an explanation, but are too arrogant or too lazy to actually listen to and process the information they get.

Hey a few words I like to use in order to view texting = Keeping in Rhythm with the respondy ( Allowing for Slippage , Pervious Statements etc. that got USERPED or relegated etc. as a progressive trade off , sort of like dropping weight of the conversation, ( besides it might Reamerge for better fit latter)

I've done it all my adult life and I'm pretty sure it's due to some pretty serious childhood abuse I mean physically fists and being lied to time and time recurring and being punished for lies that my stepmother told about me so I became a HSP and then PTSD. Add Born worrier onto everything all because of 15 years of serious childhood abuse and I've done it all my life. I overthink and My HSP reads into things that are not really there I worry about what people might have perceived I write a massive email then I seriously regret it then I try to put that right and I send that off and then I think oh my gosh and then I feel that I can't face the world anymore and I feel like I have to hide in a hole. All because of 15 years of serious abuse from my father with fists raining down on me because of damned lies told by my stepmother to get me into trouble and repeatedly being fisted to say sorry when I hadn't actually done anything wrong in the first place so I spent a lifetime trying to prove I'm right when I've not done anything wrong all because of the BS parents that I hate with every fiber of my being Even at age 69 I hate them especially when they denied it when I was in my 30s they denied it in front of my daughter that freaking hurt So that's my story and I'm sure that many many people could relate to that one. I'm not going to return to this and edit it, I PROMISE 😂 have a great week

Just figure it out. Got it.

This is really interesting, thanks. I do think there are also more subtle, nuanced reasons why some of us overshare, or over explain. Perhaps we have not been seen and heard in our early life, maybe even misunderstood. Maybe we have been exploited, and manipulated, and are simply trying to avoid this continuing. Maybe this is not simply about neurodivergence, and has something to do with trauma, and our trauma response??

I have been rewatching this vid for over an hour now. 😂

I've always been quirky & different. Doesn't mean I'm autistic. I'm just not a sheep 🐑

I relate to this SO much, I wondered though do you find trying NOT to over explain exhausting? I find trying to concentrate and not do this very tiring but maybe you get used to it …..

I feel so miserable 😢 when I always had to over explain to survive while growing up😢. Even now people I live with are doing the same thing. Thank God for the mental health awareness in this generation. I'm unlearning this trait

Wow 😅 Thanks 🌻✨🙏🏻 It explains many things in my life😊 I Love your channel , thank you very much 😊 💕

when you said you „identify as...” you already overexplained and also give transgender or lgbtq+ vibes... stop watching

I always had amazing grades and git into top unis for my bachelors and masters. I however need an inhumane effort to read an analogic clock, my mother and boyfriend can't understand it. It's not that they say i don't belive it, more like they're shocked about it. But actually in particular with temperature and light sensitivity I think I was often called exaggerated. But I just can't handle bright light or temperatures which aren't between 15-26 or cigarette smoke

✨Amazing!! 🥳🙂🙏🏻

I'd like advice from the other side: when I receive an over explained email or message, which unfortunately happens to me a lot, and can include links for "it's only half an hour" videos I'm supposed to watch so that I can "understand better", I would like to know how to handle that, because frankly I don't bother to read when it's so attention seeking and I certainly don't want to be told what my viewing list is for tonight.

When you criticising yourself with the 'I don't know if it makes any sense's or 'I'm way off topic now...' (btw you were not) it undermines all the work you do. Stop it.

Innovators needed for Global Climate Change emergancy.

That is not the core of the problem: I am autistic: And i am a vaccum cleaner in gathering informations. Fact: I like detailed informations and i spend lots of time with research and gathering informations from various angles. Thus i anticipate, that approximation turns out more precise with a higher sample - rate in topic resolution. Thus i enhance the density in expectancy of a sharper image (informations x,x`, x`` ...times n). That the neuro - typicals have a very narrow DA - converter, is, what i miss at this point even knowing it. I rise the switchtime and the "normal" DA converter gets hot (for what reason so ever). Even if i isolate issues, that causes malfunction of the "normal" DAC. It is a digital - analog issue: Autistics are rather on the digital side and the normal version is rather analogue. Not to forget: Any DA - out needs an operational amplifier and the slew rate is decisive in its capability to convey contents. That slew - rate issue with "normals" is exhausting. You can sample things you want: under 5v/µs you get compressed, messed, exhausted and depressed. Basically it is a content - filter - problem, a sample versus converted information issue.

It is not only "over-explaining". As you address in the video, it also depends on the receiver. I rejoice when getting more information and the sender being transparent, showing effort, intent and arguing. Especially in asynchronous communication, the cycle until the next communication usually takes too long or the hurdle is not taken and correcting information/having to assume scenarios over such a channel is tedious when both parties switch context, are occupied with other tasks. But a lot of people prefer to live in undiffered accelerated superficialness and dishonesty for their own well-being, play number games and let things rest because they actually want to pursue other interests and instant gratification. I have experienced how others skim through emails, cherry-picking what they can easily respond to and leaving out everything else. They don't try to comprehend the point of the sender and do not have the sense of accountability, as their environment does not teach them to value such.

I'm definitely RUclips diagnosed 😂😂😂 crazy and scary how it knows us better than we know ourselves. Although it also started diagnosing me after a huge burnout, so I couldn't get rid of that sadly.

Less is more.

Well done sir.

Two other reasons why people often misunderstand things is, because their attention span has decreased (because of smartphones, internet and multiple distractions) and humanity also is getting a bit more dumb. So: less attention + less IQ = a lot more misunderstandings. Oh, and also a reason is: Today everyone is more me, me, me. People don't want to listen anymore.

I am a chronic over-explainer and things I heard in this video will help in addition to my self-realization. This brings me a disadvantage when I'm stuck at trying to explain and this becomes a weakness vs. a manipulative person. I can also add that, when you start explaining, give yourself breaks to check the other person. You will probably see loss of interest in their eyes or hear non-sense responses from them. This also helps to adjust where you should conclude.

Yep. I noticed way too many sociopaths and narcissists claiming to be adult autists, though. These people will have numerous lovers, friends, social circles, but they claim their autistic.

This is very helpful. Thanks 👍

Am definitely an overexplainer. Thank you for this video. The other issue is that as an overexplainer, I know I have said too much, but if I don't, i feel like i will be misunderstood or not appreciated. Just last week I sent a huge whatsapp message to my friend and it preyed on me all night. I just deleted it before she read it. Your tips are gold! Thank you

I have no idea what I am, sometimes I am an introvert, others an extrovert. They thought I was a genius when I was a kid, but since then I just am very good at many things (not at genius level). I use both of my hands on my daily life and I have sort of TOC and ADHD. Sometimes I hate being with people and since young I always felt like I didn't fit in (like if I wasn't like them), but now it's easier but it depends on the day. I explote easily when something doesn't goes as planned but I also like attention from people. Sometimes I am very calm, other times (mostly with my order) I explode like a little kid. Sometimes I am extremely shy and feel unconfortable with I contact, other times I like it. I take everything to literal, and sometimes struggle to understand some jokes or stuff, but i can also make that kind of jokes and statements. I have no idea what the hell I am HAHSHHS, but it was fun to write it. It is like if I was somedays very autistic and shy, and others completly confident and normal. This is now that I'm an adult, while being a kid I always felt unconfortable showing affection or being with others (I did, but it was always kinda hard)

Absolutely 💯

I am over explainer due to having mixed receptive expressive language disorder which no one understands.so i cant form a gestalt so im always misunderstood or misunderstand. I remember professor uta frith telling my husband receptive language waa core problem of autism my son has too but i now found out i have encephomalacia missing brain tissue on right side of brain. From stroke on brain acan Fluid.and basal ganglia calcification. Fahrs disease

51 out of 63. Fun times.

“Talk less. Smile More. Don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for. You wanna get ahead? Fools who run their mouths off wind up dead.” - Aaron Burr, Sir. Hamilton 🫡

“Talk less. Smile More. Don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for. You wanna get ahead? Fools who run their mouths off wind up dead.” - Aaron Burr, Sir. Hamilton 🫡 11:23

“Talk less. Smile More. Don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for. You wanna get ahead? Fools who run their mouths off wind up dead.” - Aaron Burr, Sir. Hamilton 🫡

Everyone including you talk about buckets but just like someone else said about a well, I'm better off just leaving myself in the well because there's not enough energy in me to climb out of it. I have a good 4 to 5 hours at a time and then I'm absolutely DEPLETED. Naps help but my life becomes a total mess when I'm not allowed it. 😭

“Talk less. Smile More. Don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for. You wanna get ahead? Fools who run their mouths off wind up dead.” - Aaron Burr, Sir. Hamilton 🫡

Isn't the explanation in the video too long for the topic 😃 Jokes aside something for me to watch for. Thanks for sharing.

Does this work in professional situations?

Hell yeah!

I was misdiagnosis with yet another personality disorder. BPD TID and now antisocial. Wtf?? Im the most emphatic person I know. Now I think I read more about autism than that doctor, especially with my test showing this incredible autistic features. But im in Perú, so, everything is harder here.

This is me. It’s been terrible, and I always try to cut it short.

Thanks for making this video! The part about “find the main idea you want to communicate” was very helpful. I tend to over explain, or under communicate. I definitely have a fear of being misunderstood or not believed, which I think fuels them both. I’m worse verbally than via written media (had a fantastic teacher who taught me how to be a more concise writer). Part of my over explaining verbally is I get something out of order, then backtrack, or I get distracted by other tangents where I see a connection that the person I’m talking to may or may not see. Now I will stop, and hopefully I did not over explain 😂😂😂